Monday, February 4, 2013

What Happens Now?

After the discovery ofinfidelity, what then you ask yourself? How can I go on knowing my partner has cheated on me? What will happen to me, to my family? What will people think when they find out? Will they think it is something I did? During the in between moments of anger, hurt, denial, anger, hurt and denial, these are some of the questions that roll around in the minds of those cheated on. Especially women, usually their concerns are what will I do now or what will happen to my children, to me? Should I take the cheater back, should I walk away? One’s world has been turned upside down and inside out when something like this happens. How can any rational decision be made in the midst of such emotional turmoil?

Most women choose to stay in the relationship after the discovery of infidelity because they do not know what else to do. Some stay in the relationship because they think it was a one time “mistake”. Others stay because they love their partner. But the truth is that beneath all those thoughts, most stay because they are not prepared to do anything but remain where they are!

With all the tumultuous feelings floating around, the last thing one can think of at this time is; what type of plan do I have to fall back on. There lies the root of feelings of dis-empowerment, of feeling out of control. And most are so hurt and angry at the discovery of infidelity that they are immersed in those feelings, they can only think of why, who, where? There isn’t any opening of logical thinking while in the midst of the pain of infidelity.

So with this said, one of the most important things that you can do for yourselves is to have a Plan. When one can step back a little from the myriad emotions of infidelity and create a plan for themselves and their family, then you are empowering yourselves. Remember one of the most devastating things of infidelity is feeling that someone has taken away your choices. By making a plan, it acts as a touchstone for yourself and your sense of worth.

About the author :

Artisit of Life, Amazon Mommy, LoveLifeLightLaughter!!! My mission is to assist people to re-learn to Source The Source.
Spiritual Psychologist, Empath, Healer, Author and Counselour.

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