Saturday, July 19, 2008

Why An Online Affair?

Copyright © 2008 Ed Opperman
Everyday private investigators all over the country get asked this question . In my experience, it appears to the cheater that the Web is a safer and more anonymous way to meet people than the real world is. On line, you can be anything you want to be. Maybe better looking, more successful, happier. You can claim things on the internet that you would never say in the real world. In short, it gives people a place to live a fantasy life and compensate for the short comings of their real life. If you “meet” someone online who may sound exciting, sexy and interesting, you may spend time listening to them and fantasizing about how they look and how well they relate to you. As the “relationship” goes on, the two get to know each other better and the real world begins to enter the conversations. Trust develops because this is the person “you relate to” and it builds up as more time goes by. It then gets to the point where they begin to be even more honest, sometimes totally honest, and an online affair becomes a real life relationship or affair outside of cyberspace.
Does it actually happen? Yes. Way too many of our clients consult with us and relate their disbelief that their loved one could be trolling for sex on the internet or having an on-line affair. The reality is that, like affairs at work ,school, church, the gym , it usually begins innocently and grows. People go online and get to know one another in this anonymous cyber world and slowly it progresses into cyber sex and or a real life meeting. Do not underestimate this format for people meeting and growing close on the internet. Internet affairs happen daily, in every city across the country.
There are also those who are not looking for a relationship, rather they want unconventional sex with someone they don’t know. In some cases, cyber sex fills this need. This sub-culture is comprised of men and women who use the computer to meet other people who want commitment free sex. They are attracted to the excitement of the affair. They like to type stories about extreme sexual fantasy and fetishes. They look for others who share this desire. It is important not to stereo type these folks. They are not just strippers, escorts or the dirty old man wearing a rain coat. This is your neighbor, the soccer coach, the manager at the bank, your accountant and potentially your spouse. This group uses the computer the same way those looking for true love do. They visit certain fetish sites, e-mail, chat and instant message.
The best way to get evidence of an On-Line Affair, On-Line Cheating or Cyber Sex As private investigators we see it everyday. Clients whose spouse or loved one is cheating on them and carrying on the relationship on the internet. We STRONGLY recommend that you consider handling things yourself and try a dating service search. Enter your spouses email address and see which online dating sites they are using.
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2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Online affairs are quite in vogue today.. There is nothing physical about it (at the begining at least), but the bondage is clearly out of ordinary. Not to mention the Internet adiction factor involved.
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Anonymous said...

If there’s that need to interact with others and get to know them like never before, a little flirting couldn’t harm you that much. In fact, if you were at a forum with likeminded individuals it’ll make life a lot easier for you. You don’t need to keep all the things you wish to discuss all to yourself.
Have all the discussions you want to and enjoy your adult life. It’s the freedom everyone deserves, so why should you hold back. Participate in forums that share the same enthusiasm as you and enjoy the flirting scene like never before.

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