Saturday, April 28, 2007

5 Ways To Tell If Your Partner Is Cheating On You

Do you suspect a bit of infidelity in your relationship? I wouldn’t be surprised as most people will have been on the receiving end of this at some time of their life. Do you know what is worse than having someone be unfaithful to you and finding out? Not knowing when the person is…
There is nothing worse in a relationship than mistrust, so you need to handle the problem quickly before the loving relationship you had starts to crumble. You know what I mean, if you mistrust someone then they can sense it and you treat them differently, in the end this turns to anger and resentment from both people involved and the relationship is dead in the water. So how can you tell? How can you back up your gut instinct and be sure enough to confront your partner? Well here I will discuss 5 ways you can glean some more information.
Sign #1:
A distance forms between you. Some couple are open and close, others are not, but either way there will be times when you confide in each other and turn to each other for support. You may notice that at times they would usually talk to you then they are less forthcoming, maybe when they were stressed they would come to you, or when they were upset. This is usually because they are trying not to be as open with you as they feel less of a connection due to guilt.
Sign #2:
Buys new things that are either out of character for them, or the act of buying new things is odd. Some people get into the habit of having the same clothes and perfumes/aftershaves etc and rarely buy new things. If that same person then suddenly decides to go out and get an array of new clothes you should be suspicious of their motives (could be a spring clean, but you need to check!). Equally, if you partner is always very reserved in their choices and suddenly they start to buy more risqué clothes, or even the other way round, then you need to check for the other signs to see if something is going on.
Sign #3:
They become more defensive and quick to anger. Guilt gnaws away at you from inside, and often innocent comments like, ‘Did you take the remote control?’ can trigger that guilt and they respond in an out of character manner. If they seem to think you are accusing them all the time then there may be a reason behind that…
Sign #4:
Being too nice. Remember to only look for behaviour that is out of the ordinary, if your partner is always nice and does nice things for you then this sign may not be noticeable. Again this stems from guilty feelings, in an attempt to assuage their guilt then they overcompensate by being overly nice to you, almost as if they can ‘offset’ the negative act of infidelity with a positive. If you start to get your favourite food all the time and gifts then that should raise some flags in your psyche.
Sign #5:
Unusual or unusually high usage of mobile phones/email/the internet.
Recent surveys show that 30% ofpeople posting online personal ads are married.
In Let's face it, if you are involved with someone then you tend to want to contact them all the time when you are away from them. Even the most inept unfaithful partner in the world knows that constantly meeting person is going to get you caught, so what do they do? They resort to more passive communication methods. You will know the normal usage levels for your partner on the phone and internet, if you see that rising then try to drag them away, if they get defensive and angry… you may be on to something.
So what do you do next? If you see enough signs then you may be justified to confront them, but only if you are sure, being wrong would probably mean the end of the relationship anyway. Or you could hire a Private Investigator, these professionals are skilled in tracking and tracing people both online and offline. Did you know that you can have a search done for the email address of your partner on hundreds of dating websites at once? Or trace back that dodgy email and find out who the face behind the screen is? How about tracking that unknown number back to source?
You can even take that cell phone or Blackberry and retrieve all the deleted text messages and photos using a service called Hand Held Digital Forensics.
Then with evidence in hand you can make an informed decision and get your life back on track.
Ed
Tracing Staff
www.emailrevealer.com
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Thursday, April 12, 2007

Are you a victim of cyber-bullying?

It is funny, in a sad way, that no matter what form of communication we use people can find negative uses for it and find ways to make other peoples lives hell. Now with the 'always on' world that we live in it is becoming increasingly easy for people to get to you for good and bad purposes.

Maybe it is the apparent anonymity of text messages, emails and chatrooms that has fuelled the sharp increase in cyber-bullying in recent years? I mean in a face to face situation the person usually has to have some power over you, being bigger than you, being higher up in an organisation, or being in company when you are not. All those are situations where a bully will start to emerge and stalk their prey, but behind the electronic shield of modern communications then it could be a 11 year old child who is bullying an adult!

Yes that's right, it is not just children who are victims of cyber-bullying, adults are just as susceptible if not more (due to adults having accumulated more problems they want to take out on people). A recent survey by i-SAFE inc shows 42% of kids have been bullied online and 58% of kids have been subjected to hurtful communications online, so the figure for adults may be even higher…

So what can you do? Nobody should be subjected to any sort of harassment in my opinion and should not even have to try and avoid it, but if you do need to then there are methods you can use.
The first technique is to change your details, change your email address, change your chatroom name, change your mobile number or house phone number, this should prevent that person from contacting you. Of course they can identify you again, from your messages, or try and find out your new home number etc, even worse, they could spread malicious information about you all over the internet in frustration.

The second technique is to try and get some official sources involved. Contact the chatroom owners, if the perpetrator contacts you via email go to their email provider or internet service provider, even better, go to the police! Of course none of these may be able to, or be willing to help, so in steps technique number three…

The third technique is to fight them on their own ground, did you know you can hire a Private Investigator to trace email addresses, phone numbers, even identify withheld or blocked numbers that keep calling you? With that information in hand you can then set about getting the police involved or just take away their anonymity, if you let them know that you are aware they live just three doors up from you then they will probably stop for good!

You either fight or flee, either way can work, but do not let the bullying continue by stubbornly refusing to let it affect your life and change your details or seek help, the psychological strain is just not worth it.
Ed
Tracing Staff
www.EmailRevealer.com

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Are you missing a friend or loved one?

Are you missing a friend or loved one?
Have you ever fallen out of contact with someone and then when you tried to find them again there wasn't a trace of their existence? This can happen all the time, sometimes people don't want you to contact them and they cover their tracks, sometimes people go missing, sometimes events accidentally brush over the tracks of their travels leaving it impossible to find them. You know people go missing all the time so do not think it is impossible, figures show in the USA alone then the number of missing persons per year has risen from approximately 150,000 in 1980 to 900,000 by 2006. That is a possible 900,000 heartbroken families a year!
So what can you do? If it is a straight missing person case (i.e. you wake up one day and find they have gone) then go straight to the police, but if you just lost touch… well the police will not be interested. That is where the internet steps in, the internet has made the world a smaller place, you can search for names, phone numbers, wade through all manner of records kept online looking for clues. You can even search yourself if the person just vanished one day, there is only so much the police can do when they are handling so many cases, anything you can do to help will aid their efforts.
The only problem with that is that although the internet has made the world a smaller place, it made the amount of information around us positively explode! Just how do you find anything useful when there could be millions of people with that surname? You could search for things on the web from now until the day you die and still not scratch the surface – but all is not lost. As with most things then you should call in professionals, people who are trained and licensed to get you the information that you want, that's right, hire a Private Investigator.
Did you know you can give them just a social security number and get a name and address back within 24 hours? For just a few dollars more you can get multiple addresses, possible aliases and relatives for the last 10 years! You can give a previous address and name and get all that detail as well or give an unlisted phone number at get the address back, all for the cost of a meal at your favourite restaurant.
It makes sense to me to save your time for working out what to say to them when you find them again, rather than trying to find a needle in a haystack, leave that for someone with a magnet…
www.emailrevealer.com